The truth is, I think I forgot.
Somewhere in between relationships, jobs, kids, and life in general, I lost track of who I was. I’m not sure I knew what I liked or didn’t like or even if I had an opinion some days. Those days turned into weeks, the weeks into months, and the months into years of just going through the motions. Please don’t misunderstand, I have been so blessed, both then and now. There was a roof overhead, regular income, health, new experiences, and great friends. The crazy part is, during that stage of life none of those things felt much like blessings. Much of life seemed a bit like a chore or a task just waiting to be checked off a master list of must do’s.
I’m sure all of us go through moments of sadness, or maybe even periods of minor depression. Looking back now I can see it but at the time, I couldn’t. I struggled daily with maintaining a positive outlook as I looked forward to the next event or a positive interaction with another human. I craved a connection but couldn’t find what I was looking for even from the amazing people in my life.
I finally found the most interesting, smart, beautiful, creative, driven, thoughtful, caring, fun, silly, brave, loving person to spend time with. ME! (too much?) It only took me forty years, a dozen jobs, a handful of true friends, two babies, and one God to get me to this point. I pray it takes you much less.
In the process of truly finding me again I have re-discovered what makes me happy is making others happy. Go figure. This doesn’t feel like a job to me but rather an opportunity. In helping others find the beauty in their lives it brings all that and more into mine. Today I can tell you that each day for me, feels like a day well-lived. Not everyday is eventful or filled with deep, meaningful interaction, but when I lay my head down to sleep I recall moments of pure joy and true love.
My children are my world. They are what wakes me in the morning. Not to make lunches or drive carpool but because I have the most amazing pleasure and honor to help mold their little lives, their hopes, and their dreams. I get to spend time with the people I love; my family and my friends that are family. We laugh, talk, and share in a way I was too busy to share before. I relish in the little things like the dirt under my feet, the smell of freshly cut flowers on the table, and the sparkle in my daughter’s eyes. I hug my son every chance I get because he still allows this, and I make time for what’s important even at the expense of my chores or to do list.
if you are feeling a little in between who you’ve been, who you are, and who you are meant to be, I suggest you count your blessings, every last one, find a friend to lean on, and a comfy place to pray. Embrace the mess, live in the moment, and never ever let the chance to say I love you pass you by.
Lisa